What changed everything was tending to my inner world and nurturing myself—not just re-reading the stack of self-development books I’d acquired over 10 years of “doing the work,” but cultivating a new way of being. The old me couldn’t consistently generate a life that turned me on and got me off. I realized I needed to become a more authentic, audacious version of myself—one who listened to his gut and acted on it in service of being truly alive, no longer a suffering “success” in my comfort zone.

I began doing the deeper work, becoming softer with my partners while healing my attachment wounds and stopped avoiding sticky conversations, which led to profoundly deeper connections (and, frankly, much hotter sex). The more honest I was about my fears, doubts, and self-sabotage, the less they ruled my life. I made honest progress in my business and personal well-being, opening the doors to bold conversations about my dreams and taking action toward the life I yearned to live repeatedly. And when I found myself getting stuck or trapped in an old pattern, I stopped being so damn hard on myself and instead leaned in with curiosity to see what I needed to move forward and love myself even more.

Suddenly, my lack of joy transformed into deep and rich fulfilment. Leaps that once felt seismic now seemed inevitable. With newfound self-trust, I knew that no matter what leap I took, it would work out.

And from that place? Life got juicy.

Now I help clients do the same, whether it’s cultivating secure and steamy relationships with their longterm partners or learning to cultivate authentic and audacious self-leadership sufficiently